“My child, you need not know much in order to please Me. Only Love Me dearly. Speak to me as you would talk to your mother as if she had taken you into her arms.” –Divine Mother
Mother Healing
It might seem odd to think we are afraid to be loved by others. Where does the fear of being loved come from? The answer is MOTHER.
Mother is your first relationship and governs things like supportive friends, committed relationships, creativity, intuition, self-care, and self-love. The fear of being loved stems from early mother issues, especially a lack of nurturing from the mother or an absent mother, which
contributed to feelings of fear of being loved and rejected.
Early mother wounding often doesn’t show up in your life until later in life when personal relationships develop. As an adult, you might fear opening your heart and being vulnerable in the fear of being ridiculed by your partner or friend.
As a child, if you got pushed away from your mother’s love, as an adult, you might develop a need to have multiple sex partners and feel entitled with an aggregated ego, especially in men who are hurt by the lack of love from the mother. A lack of love from the mother is the foundation of narcissism and causes people to lack empathy and intimate connections.
Emotional Issues
Anger and hurt directly result from not feeling loved by your parents. Mother’s love runs deep, and without it, life and feeling loved becomes an emotional roller-coaster or an emotional game. We try our best to dodge feeling hurt or humiliated by others, and instead of healing, people sabotage relationships. Due to the unconscious need for love from the mother, people lack self-love and seek others to love them instead of looking inwards to love themselves.
In relationships, two people might fight a lot because they seek love from someone who can’t love themselves. There’s also a lack of good communication skills and the ability to articulate their needs in the relationship. If you don’t feel loved from the inside out, you’ll find someone who is exactly like you and experienced a similar push away from their mother’s love.
Six Steps to Forgiveness
- Write down what angers you about Mom.
- Locate a picture of Mom and place it someplace you look at every day.
- Talk to Mom. It’s your chance to get the anger and hurt out of you without engaging her personally.
- Say what you always wanted to say to the mother but instead to the picture. It’s a perfect time to be blunt.
- Keep going until there’s nothing else to say.
- Keep a journal.
Healing takes courage because you’ll need to look at yourself, your emotional issues, and the triggers with your Mother. Triggers come from other people who anger you. There’s no new anger, and the anger rising is from the subconscious programming during childhood when you had no recourse to have opinions or choices.
No judgments of any behaviors. For example, don’t say, “Look how stupid I am.” Or “I’ll never get healed.” It will be easier to let go when you are not emotionally attached to what you are encountering.
