Feeling alone? Have you experienced loneliness in the past year due to covid? Loneliness and grief stem from deeper issues that originated in childhood.
The origins of abandonment start when there’s a push away from love. It can start simply with a common gesture from a parent saying, “Not now.” Or “I don’t have time for that.” It’s especially hurtful when children feel emotional and don’t have the emotional support needed from parents. Abandonment is triggered when we get suddenly divorced, or our parents die. We once depended on it is no longer available; we can feel hurt by their absence and lack of communication.
Long-standing neglect often turns into feeling abandoned later in life. Parental separation or divorce, violence in the home, absence due to work or travels, addiction to drugs or alcohol, illness is when the child feels unsupported by caregivers and parents.
Feeling left out turns into “no one cares about me” It’s a deep sense of loss, especially a loss of love. As the child matures, they internalize the hurt feelings of no caring and either further hurt themselves by thinking negatively or uses it as a motivation to connect.
Childhood traumas of neglect often cause adults to seek love or romance from anyone, just not to be alone in life. If this happens to you, you must look deeper at earlier or childhood events that are causing you to seek out others to feel secure. People seek out bars and drinking for companionship. Once you notice you have abandonment issues look deeper into your past to find the event that caused it.
Once you find the event, you’ll need to pick it apart to see where you got hooked in. Imagine yourself hooked into an event, and how can you unhook the mind from it. Do you need to forgive someone? Or do you need to say something to someone? It’s OK to get angry here; it would help to shout out whatever you’ve been holding on to. Once you get the anger and sadness out, if that’s the case, then forgive the experience so you can totally let go and move forward.
It takes deep inner work to find the event. Join Emotional Healing Class –we go very deep.