Don’t take anything personally. It’s challenging to imagine that what other people say or do has much to do with you. But, it’s true. Each person’s opinion is solely the product of their own reality. Next time you are in an argument with someone instead of getting hurt by what is being said, ask that other person, “Where is this coming from?” See if you can stop the argument and talk it out before anything escalates.
In essence, what’s happening is you are reflecting back to the person, who is arguing with you, their own stuff. Their disagreement or anger is roused by what they see in you–as a reflection to them. Amazing, right?
I encourage you to stand next to the person who is arguing rather in front of them and let them voice their concerns. Once out, then you can discuss any issues that arise. This is a good time to point out that it’s their issue and has nothing to do with you. Hopefully they are open enough to hear what you are saying and resolve personal conflicts.
Remember only the ego can get hurt. The true self never gets hurt.
Try it out and leave a comment below.