Mindfulness is a non-reactive state of awareness. Being mindful means knowing “how” you feel right now. You are not reacting from a past fear nor projecting into the future or on someone.

Getting Triggeredmindfulness

When you react and get upset, you are caught up in the past and have not resolved your hurt issues. Most people live life by blaming others, the economy, or something else that is external to themselves as the cause of their pain instead of taking responsibility for what they created. Have you ever met someone who only talks about what happened ten years ago? This is an example of unresolved issues and a fear of letting go of the past.

Living mindfully enables you to live more authentically by accepting how you feel as it happens. Mindfulness is not automatic, it’s a process to resolve emotional situations.

Fear is a state of mind, as is peace and love. To change the world, you must first change yourself. Living from a place of authenticity and full of self-love is the greatest gift you can give yourself.

Without Judgment

Judgment is interesting because we are taught about “right” and “wrong” early in life, which causes us to view life through judgment. We end up criticizing everything, and mostly, criticizing yourself. For example, feeling the need to be perfect to deserve love or anything. Often creating excuses to stop moving forward. Two significant core beliefs contributing to stopping you are “doing something wrong” (scroll to the bottom of the page to listen to Doing Something Wrong repatterning) and “I’m not enough” patterns. We go through life believing we are broken and unworthy of life.

7 Mindful Actions

To benefit from mindfulness, develop and examine the relationship with yourself. You are more important, not in a selfish way, instead mindfully.

  1. Step 1: Slow down and come back to you—the powerful inner self is where all the answers to all the questions are and is your most powerful ally.
  2. Step 2: Examine how you feel right now. Be present, in this minute or hour. Do you feel hurt, sad, fearful or loving, happy and blissful?
  3. Step 3: Stay neutral while you experience life. Work on not taking sides during situations.
  4. Step 4: Take responsibility for your actions without blaming others.
  5. Step 5: Relate experiences using the pronoun “me” or “I” instead of “you.” This takes practice-
  6. Step 6: Love yourself, including the angry and unhappy you.
  7. Step 7: Choose happiness every morning—no matter what.

Out of the seven mindful actions, which ones are easy for you to do?

You’ll need to practice Step 5 more than the others. We are so programmed to use the word, “you” when talking about ourselves, it automatically takes the blame from us, and puts it out there–whatever that is.