Heal Emotional Addictions
Subconscious Pattern Release
What Are Addictions?
What do you honestly believe you can’t live without? Is it sugar, food, cigarettes, marijuana, attention, alcohol, or sex? Whatever your answer, you are part of the growing population of individuals who experience addictions.
The reality is we are all addicted to something. Do you know what are addictions? Here is the definition of addiction – The term addiction is used to describe a recurring compulsion to engage in some specific activity despite harmful consequences to your health, mental state, or social life. In other words, it’s a mental attachment you connect with to feel something. There are biological or emotional co-factors that contribute to these addictions, too.
What Does Addiction Mean?
The truth is, all addictions give you a “fix” and some pleasure; otherwise, you wouldn’t do them. It’s amazing what addictions mean to you and what you tell yourself about the addiction.
Often the reward of the addiction is not very good for you. A client said, “She only had one vice and rewarded herself by smoking cigarettes.” Drinking diet soft drinks or having the occasional smoke may not seem like a big deal, but addictive behaviors often lead to more serious destructive life patterns.
What does addiction mean according to you? According to Stanton Peele, Ph.D., “Addiction is a malady for society and entails every type of psychological and societal problem.”
In the Buddhist tradition, addictions are seen as attachments. They can be an attachment to fear, loss, hurt, longing, or even a lack of purpose. It doesn’t matter if you choose alcohol, drugs, sex, food, pornography, or shopping, and you are trying to fill an empty space and dampen emotional pain. The vital part of the addiction or the compulsion is not about the specific desire to drink, do drugs or spend money. Instead, these addictions reflect an emotional need to fill a space within and calm the pain.
Addictive behaviors arise from unmet life needs and a lack of love during childhood. These past emotional memories cause you to feel unworthy and especially unloved.
How Does Addiction Work?
After knowing what are addictions to anyone, now understanding how you operate with addictions is the key to healing. The addictive behavior shows up in life as an “emotional need” and ends up as a replacement for something else. Food becomes a replacement for love or appreciation. Obsessing over things or details becomes a replacement for self-confidence. Sex addiction is a replacement for love. The addictive behavior offers a sense of power that can’t be found elsewhere. Compulsive, obsessive behaviors, and even co-dependency are other forms of emotional addictions. These emotional addictions are connected to areas of life where we feel out of control.
Take drugs as an example. A person gets addicted to the euphoric sensations drugs provide. Suddenly you start believing being under the influence allows you to really “feel” or that it gives you a sense of grandeur that otherwise would not be experienced. However, the drugs aren’t doing anything but changing the dopamine levels in the brain.
When you complain about not having enough of something, money, for example, you get satisfied from the process of complaining, and it makes you feel happy. In essence, this, too, is a type of emotional addiction. People get addicted to complaining or to the behavior associated with it to ensure their needs are met.
Transferring Addictions
Transferring addictions is a common occurrence. Instead of healing the emotional patterning associated with the original addiction, the physical dependence is transferred to something else. This is often seen with alcohol addiction. If you are addicted to alcohol and stop the addiction, yet do not heal the emotional patterning behind the physical addiction, it gets transferred to other bad habits, such as smoking. To heal, it’s important not to transfer addictions. You want to change the emotional memory and mental neuropathways in the mind associated with the addictive behavior and unwind the original patterns.
How to Release Addictions
Current life situations like divorce, death, illness and financial loss become the doors to dig deeper into the underlying feelings at the onset of physical addiction.
Addictions stem from earlier life unmet needs that propel emotional and physical obsessions forward. Emotional addictive behavior changes once you address the subconscious experiences that created hurt and anger. Locating the subconscious wounds takes you under the surface of the conscious mind.
Physical Addiction
Let’s work with cigarette smoking, but it doesn’t have to be smoking, it can be any addiction. To get to the core of addictive behavior, you want to locate the original feeling and emotional scenario associated with the outward action of the addiction.
Ask Yourself
- What made me take the first inhale?
- What was going on in my life?
- At what age did it occur?
- Were there family arguments? Or parents breaking up?
Go Deeper and Ask
Be honest and describe how you feel or experience life
- How do I feel when I smoke, take drugs, have risky sex, etc.?
- Do you feel empowered, happy, and content?
- Do you feel weak, depressed, sad, unworthy, and unloved?
Whatever feelings arise, allow the feelings to be present. Be 100 % honest with yourself. There’s no need to cast another judgment upon your beliefs or qualify interactions between you and your parents because this is how you got hurt in the first place.
Subconscious Healing For Emotional and Physical Addictions
What’s Included
- Release Addictions
- Release Control
- Release Rejection
- Doing Something Wrong Pattern
Four MP3 audio downloads re-patterning the subconscious.
What’s Included in the Healing
Session one: Emotional Addiction Patterns
Buddhism perceives addictions as attachments. Addiction is, in fact, a collection of attachments. It is attachment to fear, attachment to loss, attachment to longing, and a lack of purpose. Whether we choose alcohol, drugs, sex, food, pornography, or shopping, we employ the means serving the compulsion to dampen pain. Emotional compulsion is the crux, and that compulsion is not so much to drink, do drugs or risky sex. It’s an emotional need to fill that space and numb out the pain.
Session two: Control Patterns
We don’t like to admit it, but we all have control issues. For most people, a compulsive need for power results from being neglected or abused as a child. If you were physical, verbal, or sexually abused, you likely have reached a point where you feel the need to regain control in your life.
An underdeveloped emotional self often controls situations. While control may provide a sense of relief on one level, it does not solve the underlying problem of hurt and pain underneath. Releasing control addresses the emotional wounding that started in childhood and releases its hold on you now.
Sessions three: Rejection Patterns
Everyone has felt rejected at one point or another in their lives. Rejection is part of our human condition. Actors and actresses are told,” “Get used to it. Rejection is part of the business” An author is told, “Don’t take it personally” Men and women reject each other in the dating scene all the time. But do we ever really get over it?
Earlier life experiences create patterns in the subconscious, and unless they are addressed, the rejection patterns become the foundation of your adult life. When we get emotionally triggered by another person, we react and feel hurt by a simple situation and wonder” “Where did that come from” It was an old rejection issue lingering in the subconscious mind. Unless released, rejection patterns create a magnetized attraction. This draws in all the people and situations that will reject your right to you, over and over again.
Session four: Doing Something Wrong Patterns
Have you ever felt like something just wasn’t right in your life? Or question yourself about life purpose and professional life direction? And wondered if you are doing something wrong? The “Doing Something Wrong” patterns began in childhood when you were punished and not told why. The punishment sets up fear and feeling you are doing something wrong. Punishment patterning is deep wounding in the child.